Can love survive bad sex?

The one important question about this is “what Is BAD sex?” As all individuals are different you may find that for some it’s the strokes; the chemistry; maybe one partner is prone to coming faster than the other or there is a lack of orgasms. When it comes to love and sex the main objective is to separate the two in the sense that in a relationship sex should be a bonus. Everybody knows that ‘love conquers all’ but for others they do not need love to keep their sexual fantasies satisfied.

With the question in mind (can love survive bad sex?), the level of communication between lovers should be a two way street. You cannot claim to love someone if you cannot tell or get help for them if they are lacking in the bedroom. Everyone obviously prefers sex in their own accord but with the fact that you cannot expect someone to know and understand what type of sex you require to be satisfied, there will always be a thin line between bad sex. What is considered bad sex for someone else might be good for another. Then again if you find yourself caught in a whirlwind of ‘bad sex’ it begs the question of ‘what are you doing about it?’

Have you ever thought that maybe the kind of relationship you have with a person determines the level of enjoyment when it comes to sex. If there is no sexual connection between two people, why is there a need for one to stay because they claim that there is love. Excuses like ‘what he/she cannot achieve in the bedroom can be compensated for in the affections they have for you’ is not enough if you feel the need to complain about it. From personal experience I have learnt that experience counts for both parties involved. Not every sexual encounter you have will be satisfying which is why you need to find what works for you. In relationships where one partner is not satisfied there will be situations of trust as one might end up looking for what is missing elsewhere. In the end of it all if you cannot talk about it you will think the intimacy is the problem that cannot be fixed.

Thembelihle Shiloane

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