Healing- Mandatory Not Optional.

Love is undeniably a beautiful thing; especially when it involves two people who really want to make it work. Sometimes, things don’t always work out the way we planned them, and this would usually result in a break up and in a worst-case scenario – divorce…

Going through a break up requires a lot of time and energy; it wouldn’t be wise to get involved again shortly after a break up. Depending on how bad things ended, some separations can leave people damaged and they may think that the best way to get over a past relationship is to be with someone else. It’s very important to take time before getting into a new relationship, because you may be bringing baggage from your previous relationship into the new one. Heartbreak on top of another will only do more harm than good.

One needs to realize what factors could have contributed to the break up. Again, seeing your own mistakes and knowing what to work on so that you don’t repeat the same mistake twice will save you from another heartbreak. Healing is an internal process that has nothing to do with outside factors; healing starts and ends with an individual. If you do not work on healing yourself, you will leave other people damaged.

 

By Rethabile Khunyeli

7 thoughts on “Healing- Mandatory Not Optional.

  • December 10, 2018 at 6:04 pm
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    Nice article 😜
    Someone answer me – when is it okay to move on to the next partner after a break up? There should be a general amount of time to heal right?

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    • December 10, 2018 at 9:42 pm
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      It actually depends on the level of love and intimacy you shared with the certain individual. One would also say the duration of the relationship determines the “get over it” time as well. Healing also comes in many ways. 1.The methods you are using as a coping mechanism count. 2.How much time do you spend dwelling on your broken relationship; and lastly is you ex partner making it easy for you to get over them (are they still calling and pestering you or vice versa) and do you still harbor feelings that still connect you to that person? Damn I should be a love doctor- yes; no; maybe?

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      • December 11, 2018 at 4:24 am
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        I totally agree with you Thembelihle, some things are deeper than what the eye can see. There are a lot of factors that contribute to one’s healing.

        I am giving you the go ahead, you would do great as a love doctor.

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    • December 11, 2018 at 4:18 am
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      Thank you Destiny
      I would not say that there is a general amount of time to healing, but you can’t get involved with someone else while you are still crying and hurting over an ex.

      Once you’ve passed that stage and you no longer find yourself dwelling in the past and seeking for answers as to “What went wrong ?” You should be ready to get involved with someone new.

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  • December 10, 2018 at 9:38 pm
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    Hey, nice article…

    I wouldn’t say there’s a specific amount of time, I believe that when you meet the next person that’s the right time.

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    • December 11, 2018 at 4:26 am
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      Thank you Kea
      Say you meet the next person 3 days after a break up, is it still the right time??

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      • December 11, 2018 at 5:32 pm
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        I personally believe so, it might take you 10 years to heal or 10 hours

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